John 3:16 Arrow For God so loved the world that He gave His only begotten Son, that whoever believes in Him should not perish but have everlasting life ^DREAM interpretation ministry




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OVERCOMING ABUSE!
#11
“Miraculously healed"

It’s no surprise that people with a problematic past can have major difficulties in relationships as life progresses.

I had a problematic past and I really struggled relating at school, with my family, in marriage, in church and with God.

My mother was reared in a children’s home in the 1920s, where she suffered cruelty and abuse. She had been taken there, aged three, because her father abused her and attacked her with a knife.

My own father suffered the tragic deaths of his sister and brother and, as a result, became embroiled in unhealthy spiritual activities under his mother’s possessiveness and manipulation.

My sister nearly died when she was three years old. My parents’ reaction was to treat her like a princess. They wanted a son, so they tried for another baby.

Unfortunately, being a second daughter, I didn’t ‘fit the bill’. My mother told me often how she had tried to kill me but then felt scared of the consequences, so she ‘farmed me out’ as often as possible but when I was with her she was violent and inappropriately abusive.

For many years my grandmother and father used me for things that are best not spoken of here. It’s not just the pain of trauma that needs healing, but the beliefs we form from that trauma.

Beliefs about ourselves God, life and others: In addition, we have an enemy who sits on the tail of our pain and wrong beliefs and can cause havoc in our lives.

I suffered all these. The saving grace in my life was my Christian Grandpa. He taught me the Gospel through flowers – telling me the stories of Jesus appropriate to the month the flowers bloomed and the nature of the flower: Christmas roses for the nativity; snowdrops for purity, cleansing and forgiveness; daffodils for new life and resurrection; forget-me-nots for the constancy of God’s love. So I always had a sense of God and the truth.
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#12
"THE CURSE OF THE PAST IS BROKEN AND OUT OF IT ALL GOD IS BEARING BEAUTIFUL AND GODLY FRUIT"


I became a Christian, aged 17, when Grandpa died. After that it wasn’t a smooth ride, but Jesus led me on a healing journey. We walked through good, and less-good, professional help, through helpful, and also abusive, Christian prayer; but through it all He brought me into the place where my wounds and wonky thinking have been miraculously healed. During this journey I also had to overcome anorexia, bulimia and the death of our first son. I have been healing from several bouts with cancer and 15 major operations, and I have overcome the loss of finances and employment.

Nothing is impossible to overcome with help, prayer, teaching, training and the amazing gifts of the Holy Spirit, of Jesus’ love and resurrection life. I have had the joy of leading my sister and my mother to Christ and reconciling with them. My father, now aged 90, is also finding more freedom. By the grace of God my husband and I have grown in
love over nearly 35 years of marriage. Together we have three children, all going on with God and in godly marriages, and two lovely grandchildren. The curse of the past is broken and out of it all God is bearing beautiful and godly fruit. Not least, God has led my husband and me to combine our professional training with our experiences, good and bad, and extensive prayer ministry experience into a ministry to help others encounter Jesus and His healing. We have been blessed to see Him bring release to many. If we can help you encounter Jesus, we’d love to do so. What He has done for me He can do for you too. His goodness never ends.
#13
Your 28 Days of Change

God’s spirit is in you and... ‘He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world’


It takes time to change long-standing thought patterns, habits and behaviour. We need to keep coming before God in our brokenness and asking for His help. The rest of this Overcoming booklet is designed to help bring you before God for the next 28 days – to learn from His wisdom in His Word and to access His healing power through prayer. Make a decision to set aside the time each day to read and respond in prayer. Don’t worry if you miss a day or two, just pick up wherever you left off. Keep a notebook and pen nearby to jot down anything that occurs to you while you read, or quotes that inspire you to think differently. Trust that God will speak to you personally about your healing over the coming weeks. Remember, Jesus is on your side, willing you to succeed. Right now, He is praying to the Father on your behalf. God’s Spirit is in you, and ‘He who is in you is greater than he who is in the world’ (1 John 4:4).




DAY 1
Feeling Rejected?
On the day you were born, you were unwanted’ Ezekiel 16:5 NLT



WHEN YOU’VE BEEN ABUSED YOU NOT ONLY CARRY WITH YOU THE MEMORIES, but also anger over the fact that nobody stepped in to help you. Listen: ‘No one looked on you with pity... you were thrown out into the open field’ (Ezekiel 16:5 NIV). Private rejection is bad enough, but when it happens in public, you feel vulnerable and worthless. You think to yourself, ‘If they don’t think I’m worth anything, then maybe I’m not.’ Wrong! Never allow somebody else’s opinion of you to determine how you see yourself! That’s too much power to give to anybody. If others don’t value your worth, that’s their problem – unless you make it yours! When people reject you, it’s because they don’t have the ability to see inside you, or hear the meaning behind your words, or feel the quality of your touch.

They’ve bought into a lie; make sure you don’t buy into it also! Until you learn to care for yourself, you won’t be able to care properly for anybody else. You can only give to others out of the well of your own self-esteem. Most physical abusers don’t hate their families, they hate themselves. It just overflows to those nearest. Paul says, ‘He who loves his wife loves himself’ (Eph 5:28 NIV).

But what if he doesn’t love himself? ‘What’s the answer?’ you ask. Listen: ‘Then I passed by and saw you’ (Ezekiel 16:6 NIV). God sees you, He loves you, and He has a wonderful plan for your life. When you can accept that, your healing has begun.


Prayer Point - Facing the reality:
Lord, You see all things and You know all things. As I come to terms with the painful things which have happened to me, I thank You that none of it was ever hidden from You. You saw it all, yet You weren’t defeated by it. Give me strength, I pray: strength to face the reality of what I have lived through and strength to hope for healing and wholeness
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#14
DAY 2
You’re no accident
He chose us in Him before the creation of the world
Ephesians 1:4 NIV




YOU WERE IN GOD’S MIND BEFORE YOU WERE IN YOUR MOTHER’S WOMB. Your parents didn’t create you – God did. It doesn’t matter if you were conceived during an act of date rape, or born to a mother on income support who had children by several different fathers. God created you! He didn’t allow you to be aborted, miscarried, stillborn or die in childhood. Those events didn’t take you. Why? Because God isn’t finished with you yet. Don’t forget that! Even when you were abused as a child, He never took His hand off you. He brought you through and kept you from losing your mind. He’s the One who brought you to an understanding of Jesus Christ as your Lord and Saviour. He’s the One who raised you up in spite of every attempt of the enemy to destroy you, diminish you, defame you, or discourage you. The fact is, if you hadn’t gone through everything you’ve been through, you wouldn’t be the person you are today – and God knows that! He has been in the process of creating you, moulding you, refining and perfecting you since the moment He first thought of you. He gave you your own personality, your own abilities, your own spiritual gifts and your own identity in Christ. Why? So that you, and you alone, might praise Him the way you do, give the way you do, serve the way you do, and love the way you do. Rejoice; you’re His unique creation and He loves you.


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DAY 3
Bound Within

'If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ.’ Galatians 1:10 NIV


UNTIL YOU QUIT AGREEING with those who’ve mistreated you, or the events that crippled you emotionally, you’ll remain locked in a prison of your own making. Too many of us have made it our life’s work to change somebody else’s opinion of us. We’re determined to prove to them that we’re valuable. Never allow somebody else’s approval to become your goal. The truth is that some folks may never like you. They may never see your good qualities. Any time you agree with somebody who rejects or abuses you, you put yourself into bondage to them. By saying either in word or deed, ‘You were right to hit me, or leave me or hurt me,’ you’re tying yourself up with their opinion rather than God’s. Furthermore, when their opinion of you becomes your opinion, you’ve built a prison inside your soul with only one prisoner – you! Are you prepared to accept that the person you’ve spent your life trying to impress may never be impressed? And are you prepared to accept that from God’s perspective – it doesn’t matter? To deal effectively with others, you must be able to work alongside them – without allowing yourself to be controlled by their moods, or governed by their opinion of you. In all probability, you don’t need to be delivered from the devil or anybody else; you just need to be delivered from the wrong beliefs you have about yourself. When you can acknowledge that, you’ve taken the first step toward freedom.


Prayer Point - Courage to tell:

God of comfort, You never ask me to suffer in silence or to struggle alone. Give me courage to speak out about the abuse I’ve experienced; to break the silence which has shut me away for so long. Yet I’m fragile and the thought of sharing my story is scary. Please give me wisdom to know who to talk to, and give them wisdom to know how to support me


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#16
Words of thought! Really insightful, we not miss every bits of it. God Bless U Sir.!!!
#17
DAY 4

Still feel bitter

'If you forgive anyone’s sins, they are forgiven. If you do not forgive them, they are not forgiven.’ John 20:23 NIV'


LOOK OUT – BITTERNESS IS JUST UNFULFILLED REVENGE. If you think what they did to you was bad, wait till you hear what bitterness will do: 1) keep the hurt alive in your heart 2) control your moods 3) extend your pain 4) cause you to lose friends. There’s nothing more unattractive than a sour soul who wants to talk only about ‘what they did to me’. Don’t do that to yourself. You deserve better! Take back your power. Forgive them and hand them over to God. And get rid of the scorecards. Burn them! If you know where they’re hidden, you haven’t let them go yet; you’re still imprisoned. Jesus said, ‘In prayer there is a connection between what God does and what you do. You can’t get forgiveness from God, for instance, without also forgiving others’ (Matthew 6:14-15 TM). ‘But you don’t know what I’ve been through,’ you say. No, but I know what Jesus went through. Want to compare stories? Everybody He was close to let Him down. Add to that the weight of carrying the sins of the whole world and you’ve got more than a reason to harbour bitterness. But instead He preached forgiveness – from a cross! And His word to you today is ‘pray for those who are cruel to you’ (Luke 6:28 NCV). It’s hard to stay mad with somebody you’re praying for. Jesus adds, ‘Implore God’s blessing upon those who abuse you’ (Luke 6:28 AMP). There it is – God’s way. Try it; it works!


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DAY 5

Are you feeling exploited

"Above all, love each other deeply, because love covers over a multitude of sins.’ 1 Peter 4:8 NIV"


ARE YOU FEELING USED AND ABUSED?
You thought they liked you – even loved you – but now you find out they were just ‘using’ you. That’s what happens when we put our life into the hands of mere mortals. They’re not creators; they can’t make anything out of us – they can only use us. You snapped at the kids. You yelled at somebody in work. You screamed at the driver who cut you off on the road. You fought with your mate again. Now you’re pouring all your frustrations out on those whom you love – and anybody else who crosses your path. Ever think that perhaps your anger is just a by-product of the bitterness and resentment you’ve allowed to invade your soul? The answer is not to take it out on those around you; it’s to take it to the Lord in prayer and let Him heal you. It’s got to start on the inside before it shows on the outside. That means spending time with God, allowing Him to forgive your resentments, remove your pain, heal your memories and enable you to love – as He loves. And that’s a job for God – don’t try it without Him! Why don’t you pray this prayer? ‘Father, I want to act in love, not react in anger. Instead of being short-tempered, help me to be patient and ‘turn the other cheek’. Today let Your love rule my life, for Christ’s sake. Amen"

Prayer Point - Seeking help :

Lord God, You are responsible for my healing, and I give You thanks that You have put in place people who are equipped to help me recover from the painful experiences I have had. Only You know exactly what support I need, so I ask You to give me wisdom to know where to go for help. Lead me to the people and services which will help me find freedom.
#19
God bless you sir.
#20
DAY 6 The two sides of forgiveness
‘Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other’ Ephesians 4:32 NIV



HENRI NOUWEN WRITES, ‘WE’VE ALL BEEN WOUNDED. Who wounds us? Those we love and those who love us. When we feel rejected, abandoned, abused, manipulated or violated, it’s usually by people close to us: our parents, our friends, our marriage partners, our children, our teachers, our pastors. This is what makes forgiveness so difficult. It’s our hearts that are wounded! We cry out, “You, who I expected to be there for me, have failed me. How can I ever forgive you for that?” Though forgiveness may seem impossible, nothing is impossible with God! The God Who lives within us will give us the grace to go beyond our wounded selves and say, “In the name of Christ, I forgive you.” But remember, there are two sides to forgiveness: giving and receiving. Although at first sight giving seems harder, often we aren’t able to offer forgiveness – because we haven’t fully received it ourselves! Only as people who’ve tasted the joy of forgiveness can we find the inner motivation to give it. Why is receiving forgiveness so difficult? Because it’s hard to acknowledge, “Without your forgiveness, I’m still affected by what happened between us. I need you to help set me free and make me whole again.” That requires not only a confession that we’ve been hurt, but also the humility to admit our dependency on the very one who hurt us. Yet, only when we’re able to receive forgiveness can we truly extend it to others!'